Bakit Wala Ka Pang Asawa? (Why Are You Not Yet Married?)
There are times when I meet a single man or woman – successful, good looking, has a good character, has the right age for marriage, I would always ask myself, “Bakit kaya wala pa siyang asawa?” (with a big question mark). I just can’t find any reason why such person can’t be married yet.
Bakit nga ba? Bakit? Bakit?
Truth is, there is not one specific answer. If there is, I could have been married now and all my other single friends too.
Some could have their own reasons of why, some could have formulated their own ready answers just to easily deal with it, and some are still trying to figure it out.
But then I realize, the answer to the “Why” is something that we need to leave with God. Would we be able to handle if God would answer it? Instead, we should start asking God, “What?”
What should I be doing while I’m still single?
Do I have a balanced personal and work life?
Is my character displaying godly traits?
Is my mind perceiving the right thoughts?
Am I committed to my relationship with God, family and peers?
A lot of married couples say that being single is truly a blessing. It is a phase in life that should be maximized and not wasted on unnecessary things. However, this is something most singles fail to realize. Some are too focused in their careers and ambitions that they forgot about relationships. Or, some wanting to have all sorts of experiences that they jump from one relationship to another. Some are living the life the way they want it to be and just don’t care of the consequences. And some, clouded by their own insecurities, fears and failures that they just gave up trying to become better.
Until we start doing “What” God has intended us to do, we will continue to miss out the blessings of being single.
We just have to trust God that when the right time comes, just like when God brought Eve to Adam, God will also make it happen for us. Until God is not yet done with us being single, we will never be married.
So for now…
Let’s set aside the “Why” and start doing the “What”.