I can’t believe I’m turning 31 next month. Next year, my age is off the calendar month days. 🙂 🙂 🙂
But, it doesn’t really bother me. To have another year added is a milestone, a blessing. But for some it could be dreadful, especially to singles like me. Right? Right? Com’n… 🙂
You feel like you’ve waited for so long? I do. Let’s be real. And you know what I’m talking about. For sure, if you were at my age, you’ve been bugging God more often than before on when you will really meet that person that He has prepared for you. Well, maybe you have already. God is not just telling you, yet. 🙂
Well, anyway, so how has waiting been for you? Have you been very impatient? Are you almost giving up that you want to take ahead of God? Or, giving up and just really decided to remain single for the rest of your life?
I hear you, sister. Waiting for me recently hasn’t been easy as well. Especially that I just moved to another country, building relationships and meeting new people. Being away from family and my friends didn’t help at all at this time of waiting for me.
However, God has remained faithful. His love continues to sustain me that I can only remain joyful despite of going through this season with little loneliness sometimes. I know that God is at work at this aspect of my life. And if I take ahead of Him, I will totally mess up what He has been preparing ahead of time. And I don’t want to do that. I can only trust His timing.
I mean, life is meant to be lived fully as Jesus desired us to have. Regardless of how difficult this kind of waiting can be at times, life can still be lived abundantly. Because my life doesn’t revolve around me and what’s happening to me. My life revolves around Jesus who is the very reason why I wake up each morning even if at times I don’t feel like going to work. He gives me reason to take care of myself because of the purpose that He gave to my life. He pushes me to go beyond my comfort zone so that He may reveal Himself to me more and see how much He can do more. He is my reason for living.
As I wait and prepare for God to bring me to that person He has for me, I want not just to wait and prepare for that reason but all the more for the time that Jesus will come back.
That’s what makes waiting more purposeful and meaningful. Waiting not just for somebody but waiting for the One who is really worth the wait. Jesus Christ.
Happy Waiting! 🙂
I got to answer one of the questions during our small group icebreaker activity. The question is, “How did I experience God’s grace in my love life?” I could not give a fit answer as I’m not in a relationship but it reminded me of something very important.
I know I’m not alone in the journey of waiting and for sure a lot of single women like me would agree that waiting is never easy. In my own season of waiting, I have failed so many times. This is not just in the context of waiting for the “right” person but in all other areas of my life that God had asked me to wait.
Why did I fail? Because I thought that getting ahead of God would not really cause much trouble. Because I thought I will be able to handle it. I thought I could be in control. And because I was foolish, consequences were not just painful but they left scars. And those would not happen, if I waited.
We fail to realize that the purpose why God allows us to wait is because we are not yet ready. Not yet ready of what He wanted to entrust to us. Just like when we were in school, we can’t wait to finish and get a job. But a degree is needed to be able to find a nice paying job. So there must be preparation.
God is actually gracious enough not to let us do or have something we could not handle YET. It is God’s way of protecting us from things that we are not yet ready of. In the time of waiting, He lets us see what truly are in our hearts. He reveals to us our true motives and desires for the things that we ask of Him. He allows us to also get to know Him more and His will for us. It is a season of pruning, molding, preparing and growing.
So how do I experience God’s grace in my love life? For now, it is through WAITING.
I remain confident of this:
I will see the goodness of the Lord
in the land of the living.
Wait for the Lord;
be strong and take heart
and wait for the Lord.
How are you doing?
How’s life so far?
Have you met a new friend lately?
How’s your career going?
Were you able to travel to that favorite place you want to see?
How are you with your relationship with God?
Are you spending time with your family this weekend?
Any volunteering plans in the future?
Have you improved a skill with your new hobby?
If you can’t give positive answers to those few questions, then you are truly missing out a lot in your single life.
WHAT HAVE YOU BEEN DOING THEN???
There are days that we pray harder to God, desperately asking if He can reveal the right man for us. ASAP! We would even bring up to God everything that we did for Him just to remind Him of His promise for us. (Like God doesn’t know)
In short, we tend to get impatient.
If you think that having a life will truly start when you are married, that you are saving all the good stuff for that awaited married life, then, my dear single friend, it is time to embrace your single life.
The most important thing you need to save for your marriage is your purity.
If you are saving that beautiful place when you’re married, go now! You can always come back.
If you are saving that sport you want to try, do it now! You might meet that person through that sport.
If you are compromising with relationships, quit now! You need to trust God while waiting.
Until God will bring us (single women) to our God’s best (take note – bring), let’s enjoy the blessings of being single. So that when we are married, we will not regret and say, “If only I am single…”
this is how i spend my single life 🙂
It was a privilege to be a guest blogger of OMF Literature Inc for their February campaign #loveoutloud.
Here’s the link to the blog I sent to them -> http://omflit.com/bakit-wala-ka-pang-asawa-guest-post-from-stifany-araneta/
Thank you OMF!
The Great Unknown
When you think you got it all figured out, you’re wrong.
All you can do is to continue figuring it out until you reach that point that you can’t even remember what you were trying to figure out.
Not really, right?
The moment you keep figuring things out, you will realize that they just don’t make sense at all.
Well, from your perspective.
There is a vision but the path towards that vision is just blurry.
But then, what can you really do?
Stop looking? Stop pondering? Stop figuring it out?
Unfortunately, that’s the only thing you can do when you don’t really know what you need to do.
You really need to stop.
Instead, keep praying. Keep trusting.
No matter what, never lose faith.
It will somehow break your heart but HE will never fail you.
You will shed some tears but HE will restore your joy.
It will test your patience but HE will sustain you no matter how long the waiting will be.
You just have to hold on to the promise that HE has the best ahead of you.
Just enjoy the journey of resting in HIM. Be still.
For what is the great unknown to you is the greatest known plan to HIM.
Someday, you’ll see.
And, you’ll be in awe.
A dear friend and soul sister of mine, Cheng, got engaged last September. And come December, they’re going to tie the knot. Can’t wait to witness their exchange of vow.
Hope this can be viewable. A video of the proposal 🙂