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Stop Trying

How’s your life recently? Has it been filled with joy and gratefulness? Or, has it been filled with disappointments and frustrations? Are you one of those who keeps trying so hard but still things don’t work out the way you want it to be?

I hear you, my friend. You are not alone in that journey. There are so many things in my life that I wish I can just take control. Unfortunately, life doesn’t work out that way. I have learned to live by faith and trust that I have a God who is all-knowing will not let me live a life of defeat. I have learned to surrender and let go.

The source of my disappointment and frustration was because of a wrong mindset. I focused on pleasing people and myself rather than pleasing God. I tried so hard to live up to my own and to other people’s standard that eventually crushed and broke me. It was an exhausting journey. I realized I was trying to make my life look better to others but deep inside, I was empty. I was trying to fill that emptiness from accomplishing things.

But God is so good and gracious. He picked me up and He gave me rest. God reminded me that there is nothing more I need to do because He got it. He got His Son Jesus to fill my emptiness. And indeed, it was the most effortless satisfaction I have received in my life. As I received Christ in my life, I still have disappointments and struggles but I also have joy and peace. I didn’t have to keep trying. Instead, I started living a life that God has intended me to live.

If you haven’t met Jesus, I would love to introduce you to Him. He is for real, that I’m sure about.

” I came that they may have life, and have it abundantly.” – Jesus (John 10:10)

Stop trying

Waiting is Grace

 

I got to answer one of the questions during our small group icebreaker activity.  The question is, “How did I experience God’s grace in my love life?”  I could not give a fit answer as I’m not in a relationship but it reminded me of something very important.

I know I’m not alone in the journey of waiting and for sure a lot of single women like me would agree that waiting is never easy. In my own season of waiting, I have failed so many times. This is not just in the context of waiting for the “right” person but in all other areas of my life that God had asked me to wait.

Why did I fail? Because I thought that getting ahead of God would not really cause much trouble. Because I thought I will be able to handle it. I thought I could be in control. And because I was foolish, consequences were not just painful but they left scars. And those would not happen, if I waited.

We fail to realize that the purpose why God allows us to wait is because we are not yet ready. Not yet ready of what He wanted to entrust to us. Just like when we were in school, we can’t wait to finish and get a job. But a degree is needed to be able to find a nice paying job. So there must be preparation.

God is actually gracious enough not to let us do or have something we could not handle YET. It is God’s way of protecting us from things that we are not yet ready of. In the time of waiting, He lets us see what truly are in our hearts. He reveals to us our true motives and desires for the things that we ask of Him.  He allows us to also get to know Him more and His will for us. It is a season of pruning, molding, preparing and growing.

So how do I experience God’s grace in my love life? For now, it is through WAITING.

one fine day

 I remain confident of this:
    I will see the goodness of the Lord
    in the land of the living.
Wait for the Lord;
    be strong and take heart
    and wait for the Lord.

Psalm 27:13-14

28: Perspective

It’s September again! If you’ve been following my blog, you would remember what I always write at the start of this month. Promotions, ratings & increases.

To help you recall, here are my stories for the past 2 years, September 2010September 2011.

What’s my story this time? Well, I didn’t get a promotion and I didn’t get a high rating. In short, I was okay. I wasn’t expecting a promotion and I wasn’t expecting a high rating. If you’ll know how our process works, you’ll understand why I wasn’t expecting at all.

Looking back in 2010, if God didn’t change my heart at that time on how I view promotions, positions and rewards, I would have felt really bad with my rating. I would again start comparing myself to my peers and questioning my supervisor.

Amazingly, by God’s grace, I responded differently. It’s not that I was not doing well that I wasn’t expecting anything. It’s just that it doesn’t matter to me that much anymore as it did to me 2 years ago. I realized that the standard set by men is different from the standard set by God. No matter how much effort you put in your work, the standard of men can only give what it can afford to give. But in God’s standard, your rewards are unimaginable. Because God sees your heart when you do your work.

To everyone who got promoted – Congratulations! Share the blessing! 😀

To those who are a bit down  – just continue looking UP; everything has its own time 😀

I remembered in one of our leadership sessions at work, one of our senior execs told us, “Don’t let your promotion define you, you define it.”

In everything, to God be the glory!

” Slaves, obey your earthly masters with respect and fear, and with sincerity of heart, just as you would obey Christ.  Obey them not only to win their favor when their eye is on you, but like slaves of Christ, doing the will of God from your heart. Serve wholeheartedly, as if you were serving the Lord, not men, because you know that the Lord will reward everyone for whatever good he does, whether he is slave or free.” (Ephesians 6:5-8)