Bakit Wala Ka Pang Asawa? (Why Are You Not Yet Married?)
There are times when I meet a single man or woman – successful, good looking, has a good character, has the right age for marriage, I would always ask myself, “Bakit kaya wala pa siyang asawa?” (with a big question mark). I just can’t find any reason why such person can’t be married yet.
Bakit nga ba? Bakit? Bakit?
Truth is, there is not one specific answer. If there is, I could have been married now and all my other single friends too.
Some could have their own reasons of why, some could have formulated their own ready answers just to easily deal with it, and some are still trying to figure it out.
But then I realize, the answer to the “Why” is something that we need to leave with God. Would we be able to handle if God would answer it? Instead, we should start asking God, “What?”
What should I be doing while I’m still single?
Do I have a balanced personal and work life?
Is my character displaying godly traits?
Is my mind perceiving the right thoughts?
Am I committed to my relationship with God, family and peers?
A lot of married couples say that being single is truly a blessing. It is a phase in life that should be maximized and not wasted on unnecessary things. However, this is something most singles fail to realize. Some are too focused in their careers and ambitions that they forgot about relationships. Or, some wanting to have all sorts of experiences that they jump from one relationship to another. Some are living the life the way they want it to be and just don’t care of the consequences. And some, clouded by their own insecurities, fears and failures that they just gave up trying to become better.
Until we start doing “What” God has intended us to do, we will continue to miss out the blessings of being single.
We just have to trust God that when the right time comes, just like when God brought Eve to Adam, God will also make it happen for us. Until God is not yet done with us being single, we will never be married.
So for now…
Let’s set aside the “Why” and start doing the “What”.
The Great Unknown
When you think you got it all figured out, you’re wrong.
All you can do is to continue figuring it out until you reach that point that you can’t even remember what you were trying to figure out.
Not really, right?
The moment you keep figuring things out, you will realize that they just don’t make sense at all.
Well, from your perspective.
There is a vision but the path towards that vision is just blurry.
But then, what can you really do?
Stop looking? Stop pondering? Stop figuring it out?
Unfortunately, that’s the only thing you can do when you don’t really know what you need to do.
You really need to stop.
Instead, keep praying. Keep trusting.
No matter what, never lose faith.
It will somehow break your heart but HE will never fail you.
You will shed some tears but HE will restore your joy.
It will test your patience but HE will sustain you no matter how long the waiting will be.
You just have to hold on to the promise that HE has the best ahead of you.
Just enjoy the journey of resting in HIM. Be still.
For what is the great unknown to you is the greatest known plan to HIM.
Someday, you’ll see.
And, you’ll be in awe.
I always believe that no one can thwart the plans of God. Yesterday, I was able to register for my IELTS exam on the day that I was really praying for, March 9. There was still an available slot. J Going to British Council, I had so much peace knowing that God will provide for the slot. And, indeed, He did! Isn’t God so great and amazing and faithful? My heart is just overwhelmed and grateful.
I know this week hasn’t really been a consistent week of quiet time and prayer. With a lot of things going on, I can’t establish my routine. But God never changes. Who He is yesterday, today and tomorrow, He is the same loving and gracious and forgiving God. My day to day activities and time with Him may change, but on the time that I am able to meet Him, He is the same God. He will not ask you why, but instead will accept you as you come to Him. Indeed, I am so undeserving of His love and grace, but because it’s not about me, but about Him that I am able to come to Him anytime even if I fall short. There’s no other God like our Heavenly Father.
I praise and thank God for allowing me to grow in my faith, even in the smallest decisions I make. We never fail to feel His presence as long as we come clean to Him and we humble ourselves to Him. He listens. He sustains. He comforts.
Indeed, with God, anything is possible. 🙂
Written Jan. 24, 2013