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The BIG Question

Last Saturday, I accompanied my friend’s daughter to watch the movie, Trolls. Overall, I really had a super fun day. The movie was really entertaining. I basically spent most of my day with my friend’s daughter as she wanted us to do other things together after the movie. In short, we had a blast!

Anyway, you know with kids nowadays. They are very smart and they really ask a lot of questions – really good ones. The biggest question I had that day which was not only asked once during the whole time my friend’s daughter and I were together was, “Do you have a husband?” It started from the question of how old I was, etc. Then, “Do you have a husband?”

And of course when you say no, there is a follow up. “Why don’t you have a husband?” I get these questions from my friends and now the pressure is on even from the little ones. Haha! I just laughed so hard not expecting we would be having that kind of conversation. Kids!

It’s a question I am so used already of being asked and my other single friends too. And in all honesty, it doesn’t really bother me. I don’t mind at all. Someday, I might be giving a different answer. Who knows, right? But for the meantime, while my answer is still a no, I will continue living a life that will only pursue what is God’s best for me.

Beautifully waiting does not mean I will just sit at a corner, not doing anything. Beautifully waiting means going on with life without compromising God’s best for me. It means if choosing only His best entails being single for now, then I will trust and wait.

Cheers to all singles who are waiting on God’s best!!

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Bakit Wala Ka Pang Asawa?

Bakit Wala Ka Pang Asawa? (Why Are You Not Yet Married?)

There are times when I meet a single man or woman – successful, good looking, has a good character, has the right age for marriage, I would always ask myself, “Bakit kaya wala pa siyang asawa?” (with a big question mark). I just can’t find any reason why such person can’t be married yet.

Bakit nga ba? Bakit? Bakit?

Truth is, there is not one specific answer. If there is, I could have been married now and all my other single friends too.

Some could have their own reasons of why, some could have formulated their own ready answers just to easily deal with it, and some are still trying to figure it out.

But then I realize, the answer to the “Why” is something that we need to leave with God.  Would we be able to handle if God would answer it?  Instead, we should start asking God, “What?”

 What should I be doing while I’m still single?

Do I have a balanced personal and work life?

Is my character displaying godly traits?

Is my mind perceiving the right thoughts?

Am I committed to my relationship with God, family and peers?

A lot of married couples say that being single is truly a blessing. It is a phase in life that should be maximized and not wasted on unnecessary things. However, this is something most singles fail to realize. Some are too focused in their careers and ambitions that they forgot about relationships. Or, some wanting to have all sorts of experiences that they jump from one relationship to another. Some are living the life the way they want it to be and just don’t care of the consequences. And some, clouded by their own insecurities, fears and failures that they just gave up trying to become better.

 Until  we start doing “What” God has intended us to do, we will continue to miss out the blessings of being single.

We just have to trust God that when the right time comes, just like when God brought Eve to Adam, God will also make it happen for us. Until God is not yet done with us being single, we will never be married.

So for now…

Let’s set aside the “Why” and start doing the “What”.

blessings

Hey, Single…

How are you doing?

How’s life so far?

Have you met a new friend lately?

How’s your career going?

Were you able to travel to that favorite place you want to see?

How are you with your relationship with God?

Are you spending time with your family this weekend?

Any volunteering plans in the future?

Have you improved a skill with your new hobby?

If you can’t give positive answers to those few questions, then you are truly missing out a lot in your single life.

WHAT HAVE YOU BEEN DOING THEN???

There are days that we pray harder to God, desperately asking if He can reveal the right man for us. ASAP! We would even bring up to God everything that we did for Him just to remind Him of His promise for us. (Like God doesn’t know)

In short, we tend to get impatient.

If you think that having a life will truly start when you are married, that you are saving all the good stuff for that awaited married life, then, my dear single friend, it is time to embrace your single life.

The most important thing you need to save for your marriage is your purity.

If you are saving that beautiful place when you’re married, go now! You can always come back.

If you are saving that sport you want to try, do it now! You might meet that person through that sport.

If you are compromising with relationships, quit now! You need to trust God while waiting.

Until God will bring us (single women) to our God’s best (take note – bring), let’s enjoy the blessings of being single. So that when we are married, we will not regret and say, “If only I am single…”

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this is how i spend my single life 🙂

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