Bakit Wala Ka Pang Asawa?
Bakit Wala Ka Pang Asawa? (Why Are You Not Yet Married?)
There are times when I meet a single man or woman – successful, good looking, has a good character, has the right age for marriage, I would always ask myself, “Bakit kaya wala pa siyang asawa?” (with a big question mark). I just can’t find any reason why such person can’t be married yet.
Bakit nga ba? Bakit? Bakit?
Truth is, there is not one specific answer. If there is, I could have been married now and all my other single friends too.
Some could have their own reasons of why, some could have formulated their own ready answers just to easily deal with it, and some are still trying to figure it out.
But then I realize, the answer to the “Why” is something that we need to leave with God. Would we be able to handle if God would answer it? Instead, we should start asking God, “What?”
What should I be doing while I’m still single?
Do I have a balanced personal and work life?
Is my character displaying godly traits?
Is my mind perceiving the right thoughts?
Am I committed to my relationship with God, family and peers?
A lot of married couples say that being single is truly a blessing. It is a phase in life that should be maximized and not wasted on unnecessary things. However, this is something most singles fail to realize. Some are too focused in their careers and ambitions that they forgot about relationships. Or, some wanting to have all sorts of experiences that they jump from one relationship to another. Some are living the life the way they want it to be and just don’t care of the consequences. And some, clouded by their own insecurities, fears and failures that they just gave up trying to become better.
Until we start doing “What” God has intended us to do, we will continue to miss out the blessings of being single.
We just have to trust God that when the right time comes, just like when God brought Eve to Adam, God will also make it happen for us. Until God is not yet done with us being single, we will never be married.
So for now…
Let’s set aside the “Why” and start doing the “What”.
Press the Reset Button
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Full of Strangers
Have you ever asked God why He allows you to meet different strangers at certain points in your life? Do you think God has a reason for every stranger that you cross path with?
Isn’t it amazing how God connects us with different people not just to those within our reach but even to those who are oceans apart from us? I never thought how technology could make it possible.
I believe that God puts people in our lives for a reason, even strangers that we get to talk for two minutes or less. We may not know what that reason is, but for sure, God makes it happen as part of His great plan in each of our lives.
When opportunity comes that strangers become strangers no more, it’s amazing when you see how relationships develop from a mere exchange of hello. Question is – How much of our time right now are we giving to invest in building genuine relationships?
And, I’m throwing that question to all single women out there. As you wait for that person that God has set for you, have you been spending your time meeting different people and really building genuine friendship? How have you been intentional in meeting people? Or, have you been totally ignoring strangers?
Since I moved here May of last year, I’m just amazed how God allowed me to meet people of different backgrounds. There are people that I only get to see once a week but as you start sharing a bit of your life to them and so do they, it’s amazing how that once a week encounters grow into friendships.
As single, one of the many ways that we can maximize our time is to be part of a community. It could be a way to meet the person that God has prepared for you. 😉 Though of course, that is just a bonus if ever that happens. It’s really more of learning how to be selfless as we share our time to people who needs it.
So when you meet a stranger today and God touches your heart to give a little bit of your time, go ahead and do it. You’ll never know how that encounter would turn out into something beautiful.
“Keep on loving one another as brothers and sisters. Do not forget to show hospitality to strangers, for by so doing some people have shown hospitality to angels without knowing it.” Hebrews 13:1-2
Photo below: This is with my friend, Anni at Intramuros. I met her at a Bible class in a church I attended before here in Canada. After the Bible class, we didn’t see each other anymore and God allowed us to meet again while we were volunteering at the church cafeteria. She is a perfect example of a person who invested her time to a stranger like me (stranger in the country to be exact). And since then, we’ve become good friends. God has used her so much to bless me especially when I moved here as immigrant.