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Silent Heart

Waiting on God’s best is not just sitting at the corner and be a spectator of things around you.

So, you decided to go out and try to meet people.

Then, you met someone whom you felt could be a possible God’s best for you.

As time passed by, acquaintance grew to authentic friendship.

Silently, you were hoping something more than friendship can turn out with that person.

But then, God didn’t say anything.

And so, you kept waiting, trusting.

Then, God answered.

A love story unfolded right before your eyes with that person.

But, it was a story that was not yours.

Shoulders dropped. With a silent heart, you still chose to thank God.

You are just grateful that God knows better than you.

And so, you continue waiting.

Trusting that the best is yet to come.

 love story.

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Reality in Fairy Tales

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When I saw the trailer of the movie, “Cinderella”, I was just ecstatic! I felt like Disney heard my wishlist! Cinderella has always been my favorite Disney Princess. I’ve watched all modern Cinderella movies a well as the cartoon movie series. And yes, I still enjoy watching those even until now. Thus, being ecstatic. 🙂

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I was greatly satisfied with how the movie was made, keeping the classic story as it is. And the real glass slippers are so fancy!! I guess nothing could really beat Cinderella’s footwear! 😉 I’m glad how the movie emphasized so much on a lot of values such as courage, kindness and forgiveness, seeing a big percentage of the audience at the cinema were kids. In short, I was so happy I finally watched it! Yay! 🙂

And of course, there are always take homes from the movie. On my way home after the movie, I got reminded of this cliche that always goes around especially to single women, “There is not such man as Prince Charming.  They don’t exist.” It made me think why would people say that. Is it only because we base it on an actual prince that would sweep off a woman in distress? As I think of the qualities of the prince in the movie, it reminded me of what I read from the book “What is He Thinking?” (By Rebecca St. James). I, somehow, want to conclude that after all, we need more Prince Charming type of men.

An answer from a guy interviewed from the book, “What is He Thinking?”

Question: “Do you think that there is a shift toward a more organic approach to dating today?”

Guy: “Yes, and it is a good thing that people are forming genuine friendships. I also think that guys are more afraid to pursue women these days. It is a lot safer for guys. I do think that guys need to step up and come back to a place of pursuing women in an appropriate way. Ultimately, God calls us to take some risks to build our character and make us more like Him.”

That’s the reason why I said that we need more Prince Charming type of men nowadays. The prince was the one who really pursued Cinderella. He had to open the royalty ball to the commoners that he might be able to see her again. And when he did, he took that opportunity to know her more. And when she left, he never stopped looking until he found the perfect fit for the glass slipper.

To be honest, most of us single women just do not understand why it is so hard for men especially in our church community to pursue or even just attempt to build friendship with women. Is it really the fear of rejection? Or, is it the wrong perception of women? I wonder what guys are thinking about women that they prefer to walk away.

And with that question, obviously I am no expert on relationship or dating. I, myself, is trying to really see the reality of it especially that I live in a country that is so diverse and multicultural. But one thing I’ve learned from Cinderella, which I believe most of us women need to learn as well is to learn how to respond.

From the same book, one guy said, “Christian girls have strange expectations of what a guy should do in a dating scenario. They all want to be pursued, but they are also very cautious about showing interest in a guy – even if the girl really likes him. I get it. I really do. Dating is a game of cat and mouse. However, at some point a girl needs to take a chance and respond. Girls often expect a guy to keep pursuing them even though they have responded to the guy’s advances with nothing at all. That is an unfair power play, and ultimately flawed understanding on how a guy think and what he can handle. No man is bulletproof. It takes two to tango and at some point you are going to have to take a chance on a guy and see if you can dance.”

I realized Cinderella or any other Disney princesses learned how to respond when they were pursued. Though of course, in our reality, it’s not like we immediately get married. My point is, as women, we must also learn to respond in wisdom. We don’t need to complicate things that could give men the wrong hints. But, we still need to keep our guard as we allow men to pursue us.

I always believe that God is the one orchestrating every detail of event that would lead us to that person that He has prepared for us. Our part is to move our feet and walk with God as He brings us to that person. There’s so much learning and character building that God sometimes prolong the waiting for us. But no matter how long that will take,  it doesn’t change the fact that in God’s timing and way, He will give you the person who is your perfect fit!

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Single, In a Relationship, Engaged or even Married

For the month of February, Beautifully Waiting page has a series on Love as it is the love month.

For this March, a new exciting series will be launched. As you read this, hope you visit and like the page to see direct updates in your Facebook news feed.  Also, feel free to invite your friends to visit and like the page.

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Shopping for what is RIGHT

 

Last year,  I attended this workshop event called, “Color Me Beautiful” without knowing what it was about.

Well, I didn’t regret waking up so early that Saturday morning because the event was beautifully organized specific for women. The workshop covered so many things that I want to share with you:

1. Knowing the right color for you. I realized how important it was to know what is the right color suited for the color of your hair, eyes, skin tone of your face. Because it will make you buy the right color of clothes, accessories and make up.

We took this activity Gold and Silver and fortunately I was able to find in the internet the steps on how to do it. You can go to this link for the specific instruction for you to know your color -> http://www.thechicfashionista.com/gold-or-silver-color-analysis.html.

During the activity, I learned that my color palette is a Spring. And, I totally agree because these are the colors which really radiates my face and make me look more blooming even without make up.

IMG-20130420-00369 2. Know your body shape. During this activity, we measured parts of our bodies to be able to identify the shape of our bodies. This way, we learned the right style of clothes we should be wearing to make us not just feel comfortable but also to feel and look good without putting much effort. 

In the same site, there are information on how to know your body shape. It’s very helpful this way, you will not spend on clothes which will not suit your body. Here’s the link: http://www.thechicfashionista.com/body-shapes.html.

3. Know your face shape. This will also help you not just know the right style of clothes for you but also the right hair style and accessories.

Here are helpful information also to know the shape of your face: http://www.thechicfashionista.com/determine-your-face-shape.html

I’ve also learned that we should not be scared of accessorizing as long as we know the right accessories.  If I only I knew about all of these before, I wouldn’t have wasted my money on outfits and accessories which do not fit me. Since then, I’ve been very careful in choosing the color of clothes I buy. 

However, how important we should look beautiful and presentable from the outside, to be more beautiful in the inside is the most important. All of these are worthless if we don’t radiate a beauty from inside that is pleasing to God. As God said, “Do not look at his appearance or at the height of his stature, because I have rejected him; for God sees not as man sees, for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” (1 Samuel 16:7)

“Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.” (1 Peter 3:3-4)

As you find what’s right for your color and shape, I hope that you also seek God to know what’s right for Him. 

Enjoy! 🙂

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Something New

The first time I tried baking cupcakes was with some friends at church. I never had a clue about baking until that day. For me, it was very,very complicated. But then, when I saw how it was prepared and done, I realized it wasn’t that complicated at all. I can absolutely do it on my own. And so, from then on, I developed a little interest on baking.

It’s something I want to learn more especially that I’m really a “bread” person. I’d love to learn how to make bread. Who wouldn’t want freshly baked breads everyday, right?

Here’s a picture of my first try of making cream puff. Well, it wasn’t bad for a first time (or I dunno, I’m no expert). Though, I tried doing it again and the second time was much better! You can find here the recipe I used for my second try -> http://gooddinnermom.com/aunt-pats-famous-cream-puff-recipe/. I liked this recipe better since it has custard filling.

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If you haven’t tried baking at all, I suggest you give it a try. If you have an oven or even just an oven toaster, you can start from there.  All you need is a set of measuring cups and spoons! 🙂 You can start with simple recipes of butter cupcakes.

Or, you can always try other things that you haven’t done. It’s nice to try something new from time to time that would make your day productive. It’s actually refreshing.

Here are other things I suggest you can try:

    – find a new sport, some of my friends got so engaged with “Ultimate” (famous term: frisbee)

   – setup your own blog site, if you enjoy writing journals, it’s time you start a blog site and start sharing to others, your life could be an encouragement

  – volunteer on weekends, some of the girls I disciple volunteer their Saturdays in tutoring less fortunate kids

  – get artistic, it could be doing crafts (which I also enjoy!) or doing designs for printed shirts and the like 

 – read a book, if you’re not into reading books, I suggest you try finishing one, doesn’t have to be a novel, a pocket size, with thin pages can be a good start

There are so many things you can actually try doing. You just have to make sure that it is practical and beneficial not just to you but also to the people around you.

If you have other suggestions, feel free to share 🙂